Gardens

I guess we will have to learn to cultivate our own gardens 🌞🙌🦋💭

Complaining

After hearing about my near dear friend Bonnie’s story about her sun wife and grandkids in North Carolina… after the passing of my father… some things just seem to make all other things shrink.

To think of the things we have the luxury of complaining about sometimes seems insane.

Complaining was one of the things people in hospice said they wish they did not do so much of.

Perspective

Open heart open mind

At least once a day I remind myself that I know nothing

CLARITY

Nature trail walks. Alcohol free, getting good nights sleeps= PRICELESS

Cell Phones

One of the many things that Rob Miller taught me was that every time I pick up my cell phone I am taken out of the moment.

When with company and especially with my son I aim to not be on my cell phone.

I know as soon as I pull that thing out I am telling him that is more important than him… it also makes me listen less and pulls my attention away from him.

As an invitation when with others do your best to stay in the moment.

One love

Namaste

Cell Phones

One of the many things that Rob Miller taught me was that every time I pick up my cell phone I am taken out of the moment.

When with company and especially with my son I aim to not be on my cell phone.

I know as soon as I pull that thing out I am telling him that is more important than him… it also makes me listen less and pulls my attention away from him.

As an invitation when with others do your best to stay in the moment.

One love

Namaste

The passing of my father

Feeling my feelings.

I refused to escape into drugs or alcohol. I have not put a prescription drug into my body since 2007 ( I did not have a problem…) I just learned how serious the side effects could be after I ended up with a whole in my small intestine from the pill Mobic.

I thought to myself “ How can I heal naturally?”

Which dove my into my holistic health practices!!! I learned how much can be done through nutrition, exercise, and cutting out the garbage including the news. :) Therefore I have not watched the news, eaten any fast food, drank soda, or have had any pharmaceuticals since 2007.

Anyways back to the passing of my dad.

My aim is to feel my feelings, grieve with clarity. I have taken two weeks off of what I am unable to call work ( I absolutely love what I do .) I have drank zero alcohol and have taken zero drugs… like I said the main thing is I want to feel my feelings. When I was sad yesterday I called a dear friend. When I was angry today I exercised.

I feel as though now there is a whole or void in my life and I simply do not want to fill it. With the passing of my father I do not want to fill it with a person, material object, or substance.

The Japanese have a belief that where there is a whole, void, crack, anything like that… that is where the light enters.

So I feel by acknowledging this void… the light will enter through it.

I believe as Albert Einstein did that energy cannot be creating or destroyed. Therefore I personally believe my father will always be here. He said look for me as “ Cardinal Fred.”

I will do my best to honor him and keep my heart and mind open looking for his signs.

I feel a deep appreciation towards him and all of my ancestors always knowing my son would not be here without them and he is my favorite gift of all time.

Seems to be a whirl wind of emotions.

This next week I will be celebrating his life with family friends delicious food and wine.

Remember both good and bad will happen to us this lifetime and we need both to appreciate the other.

We would not be able to see the moon or the stars without the darkness.

Knee jerk reactions

Nowadays I choose to respond verse react. This usually takes mindfulness and both a deep physical and mental breath.

“ Rob Miller “ taught me the mental breath trick.

Practice the pause my friends

Ps Eckhardt Tolle is amazing

KINDNESS

Kind people are my kinda people

Blame

Blame is a weak persons game.

I have been listening to a lot of Dr. Wayne Dyer lately.

When he was a therapist he had a lot of people come in and blame their mom for their issues. His response would be “ Ok send your mom to me and we will treat her and you will get better?”

Life just does not work this way. Circle of control, that person in the mirror.

I feel as though we owe it to ourselves to become the very best version of ourselves this lifetime.

This means dropping all blame and realizing we are the captains of our own ships.

None of us make it out alive without making mistakes. Often this is how we learn our best lessons.

I want to tell every 16 year old you are the captain of your own ship and only you have the power to change your life!!! Never put your happiness in other people’s hands… we must create it!!!!!! Also at 16 one had no idea about life.

I would never allow a 16 year old to take hormone blockers or make life altering decisions. We must remember the brain is not fully developed until 25 and these kids are just barely learning to drive!!!!!!

Kids need to be kids

One love

Namaste

JCC

Seeing yourself as love

“Seeing yourself as love… and having only that to give away.”

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Resentment

Resentment is like drinking poison wanting to hurt the other person.

Forgiveness is a beautiful thing… do it for you.

One love

Namaste

JCC

COMPASSION

Have you ever wanted to give other’s a break? Have you ever wanted to give yourself a break?

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Remember rule #6

Never take yourself to damn serious :)

Ego

Edging God out

I live my life with a mantra

I am not better than anyone else…

And no one is better than me

Guided

Children need to be guided…not made wrong.

When we think long term what do kids want and crave? Time with their mother and father.

One will get criticized either way…how ver we are choosing to homeschool and our sun gets socialized at libraries with other home schoolers.

Age 1 to 7 are the most formative years and when their brains are in theta.

Remember kids are crying to communicate.

To return back to nature… literally outside so often with our sun and ourselves as well.

Hope this finds you well

Love for the day

Namaste

JCC

Hard times DON’T LAST

STRONG PEOPLE DO 🦋🙌🌞💭💯🔔🌲🙏🐞

Understanding

The greatest understanding you can have… is that you do not understand.

Spending all your time and effort in relationships trying to get people to understand you or agree with you will ensure you will always be a victim.

Always give compassion kindness and caring… always give up being understood or what the others may think.

Thanks

Giving thanks for what we had 🦋🙌🌞💭

Thanks

Giving thanks for what we had 🦋🙌🌞💭